Words are exchanged. Tension’s in the air. Do you bite your tongue or plunge ahead? Carefully discern what will help other people, says Ignatius. Sometimes we should act contrary to what we feel: speak when we want to be silent and silent when we want to speak.
We act thus because in this matter we should give more heed to the good of others than to our own desires. When the enemy thus tries to magnify or diminish the communication received, we must proceed for the purpose of helping others, like a man who is crossing a ford. If I find a good footing — that is, some way or hope of profiting the neighbor — I will pass right on. But if the ford is muddied or disturbed and there is danger that scandal may be taken from what I say, I will rein in and seek an occasion more favorable to what I have to say.