Exploring the Examen Step-by-Step: Face Your Shortcomings

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Editor’s note: We continue our series exploring each of the steps of the Examen. We’re using the Examen version from Jim Manney’s book, A Simple, Life-Changing PrayerWe’ll look at a different step each week.

4. Face your shortcomings.

The Examen entered my life a few months after Hurricane Katrina hit South Louisiana. At the time Katrina hit, we lived in Baton Rouge, and I was working for the Diocese of Baton Rouge. Everywhere I turned in the months after Katrina I felt I faced another reminder of the devastation of the storm. The impact on close family members, friends, colleagues, neighbors, and even strangers overwhelmed me.

I didn’t realize it at first, but over time I came to understand that the loss of life and the suffering around me caused a crisis of faith. People were asking me daily, because I was in ministry, How God could let this happen? Where was God in this storm? What they didn’t understand is I was asking these questions myself. I was doing my best to avoid facing the questions I was asking.

About nine months after Hurricane Katrina, I was sent on silent retreat by my boss. He strongly suggested all of us in the office take some time to go be with God and be renewed. Wise man that he was, he sensed that many of us were struggling. During my silent retreat, on the very shores of the lake that did so much damage in New Orleans during Katrina, a priest named Matt Linn, SJ, taught me how to pray the Examen. It was my first time hearing about this prayer method. While I remember many details about learning how to pray the Examen that weekend, one of the most striking was the fourth step of the Examen, in which we face up to what is wrong in life and in ourselves.

As Fr. Matt guided us through this fourth step of the Examen, all that I had bottled up in me about the storm came pouring out of me. God ever so gently helped me name all that felt wrong in life and in me. I was able to name my questions of faith, the grief I felt, the sorrow within me, and the sufferings of those around me. The Holy Spirit brought those things that were sources of desolation to mind. It was like a dam breaking as God’s mercy began pouring into all the places I had been holding back from God. For months after my silent retreat, I prayed the Examen daily. Bit by bit, God helped me bring more and more of what I had experienced in Katrina to prayer and into God’s light and love.

That weekend of learning to pray the Examen changed my life. I learned not only to name the gifts of my days, but also to see the places within me and the world around me that are in need of God’s mercy and light and to pray with those.

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Becky Eldredge
Becky Eldredge is a writer and spiritual director in Baton Rouge, LA. The author of Busy Lives & Restless Souls and The Inner Chapel, Becky holds Bachelors and Masters Degrees in Education from Louisiana State University and a Masters in Pastoral Studies from Loyola University New Orleans. She has her Certificate in Spiritual Direction from Spring Hill College. Becky has been involved in ministry for more than 15 years, with the majority of her work in retreat ministry and adult faith formation. While ministry is one of her passions, her greatest joy is sharing life with her husband, Chris, and her children, Brady, Abby, and Mary.


  1. Currently we are facing the dreaded threat of the Convid 19 globally.This year started out with the busfires here in Australia.So many natural disasters and diseases which affect the economy globally.I ask the question what do these signs mean.Is our loving God sending warning signals and for what?Has the human race forgotten God and therefore does he have to remind us through these signs?I certainly think our prayer metre is rising,some of us are fearful but mostly I believe we should trust in God and His covenant.Whatever is happening around us is a test of how we are and can be more faithful to Him.

  2. A program about the recent (and current) bushfires in Australia shown by our public broadcaster last evening was, at times, too painful to watch. I realise I am grieving for my community and the other communities who faced this terrible peril. I am reading St Paul’s letter to the Ephesians in a very slow way, thinking deeply about being an adopted child of God: a very much loved child of God. I know God’s love is unconditional and my shortcomings, like all beloved children’s shortcomings, are part of the dynamic relationship. I will not beat myself up over those shortcomings but, in prayer, thank God for the love and mercy I receive every day.

  3. Thank you Becky. If it’s appropriate, would you be able to share a little about how God’s light and love helps one deal with the events surrounding Hurricane Katrina; indeed any non-human caused events in general that cause incredible amounts of suffering to people and other sentient creatures. Two questions you mentioned in your article were: ‘How God could let this happen? Where was God in this storm?’ How does one begin to satisfactorily reconcile these events with belief in an all-powerful and all-loving God?


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