All Aspects of Us

hearing aid charging station - image courtesy of Gretchen Crowder

Do you love all the aspects of you?

Are you proud of all the parts of who you are?

Last week, I introduced myself to my new students as we began the school year together. I’m never quite sure what to share in my introduction because, to be honest, I’m never quite sure what teenage boys want to know about their teacher. This time, to start, I told them about my education and training. Then, I told them about our house full of boys and animals. Randomly, I decided to enlighten them about my recent addiction to Candy Crush (a habit I picked up this past summer when our air conditioner was out for eight days). Finally, I told them about my boys’ learning differences and hearing loss.

I debated whether to include this last part in my introduction. After all, my sons are more than these parts of who they are. But these are also parts of them that I love and respect, and they play a significant role in who they are and who our family is becoming.

Over the past four years, my husband and I have learned a lot about our boys. We have learned about their incredible joy and hunger for life as well as their boundless creativity and energy. We have also learned about the many ways they learn differently in the classroom. Four years ago, we learned about my oldest son’s hearing loss, and this summer, my twins joined him in wearing hearing aids. We now have a neatly organized little charging station in our kitchen that charges three sets of hearing aids and three devices for the classroom every night.

In preparation for my twins to receive their hearing aids, I spoke to them repeatedly about how hearing loss is a beautiful part of who they are. I reminded them that we celebrate all the parts of them and love how even this is a part of who they are as uniquely called and chosen people of God. My hope is that the more they hear it, the more they will internalize the message to love all parts of who they are—especially the things that make them most unique or the things they sometimes may struggle to love.

Loving all parts of oneself is difficult. In fact, I don’t think I did it well as a child myself. I admittedly don’t do it all that well as an adult either. I think the more that I struggle with it, the more I want my sons not to. And the more that I witness them loving and embracing who they are, the more I am inspired to do the same.

If it isn’t clear by this post itself, I don’t hide this part of our family story, but I try not to make it all of our story either. One thing I have learned from my study of and engagement in Ignatian spirituality over the years is that it’s important not only to understand and recognize all the parts of who we each are but to celebrate them. After all, God chose us. God chose to create each of us as a unique and wonderful and loved human being. Even when we fail to recognize this chosen-ness in ourselves, God still chooses to love us each minute of every day, exactly as we are.

So, I’ll ask again:

Do you love all the aspects of you? Because God does.

Are you proud of all the parts of who you are? Because God is.

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Gretchen Crowder
Gretchen Crowder has served as a campus minister and Ignatian educator for the Jesuit Dallas community for the last 15 years. She is also a freelance writer and speaker and is the host of Loved As You Are: An Ignatian Podcast. She has a B.S. in mathematics and a M.Ed. from the University of Notre Dame as well as an M.T.S. from the University of Dallas. She resides in Dallas, TX, with her husband, three boys, and an ever-growing number of pets.

6 COMMENTS

  1. Thanks Gretchen. Your article reminds me of what Indian mystic poet Kabir Das (1398–1518) would say: “Whether I be in the temple or in the balcony, in the camp or the flower garden, I tell you truly that every moment my Lord is taking His delight in me”.

  2. Dear Gretchen, I’m enjoying so much the chronicling of life with your boys. This is an exceptional narrative that applies to all of us. I had a student (all boys’ Jesuit high school) who survived cancer and from it, he needed a cochlear implant. The day I showed him my new hearing aids was a day that we both laughed and “celebrated” who we are and knew how much God loves us. My prayers for your family continue. God bless!

  3. Hi, this was very timely for me. I just got hearing aids this week. I’ve been struggling to use them and appreciate how they help. Other than think of how old I am!!

  4. Thank you Gretchen for alerting me to the fact that God loves all aspects of me and is proud of all parts of me. I shall now try and look at those aspects and parts of me which I was not proud of with a new light. I think it is going to be quite easy – if God created me, everything must be good and loveable.

  5. Hi Gretchen. I am a 5-year retired math teacher in an all-boys high school. One year, one of my students had a hearing assistance device. Each day, he would walk into my classroom and give me what I needed to wear around my neck. John was a delightful young man – always with a smile. We would laugh whenever someone came to my door to talk to me. I’d remind him to turn the device off so he wouldn’t eavesdrop on the conversation!
    I agree that it is important to love all parts of you – and others! So many people struggle with this.
    Thank you for all your articles! They are enlightening and food for thought.

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